Yes, it’s me, Mandy missing all my hugs, kisses, and smiles from Everyone of you. You are constantly on our minds.
I know that you are passionate about the success of PIC. So, I am asking each and every one of you to join in on the new “Monthly Campaign” to supporting PIC. Especially, during these terrifying times.
I am asking you to join in on the monthly “Recurring Donation” Campaign. We are working to convert annual donors to monthly donors.
The reoccurring format is known to be the smartest, and easiest on the donor. It is a very easy setup process, three easy steps,
takes little effort and you are part of the recurring club!!
No more stamps and writing checks.
How about it. Go to the Donate Now Linkand select the County you want to support, Select the top box to become a recurring donor, select the monthly amount you can afford, (Every little bit helps) and submit to complete the process.
“It’s the # of participants that matter”
and you are on your way to MAKING A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE for PIC and the ability for us to continue our Mission by Serving The Olde Adults of our Communities.
Thank you so much in advance for making this campaign a success.
Partners In Care can ALWAYS count on you!!
Stay Safe and Well!!
Hugs and Kisses from me, Mandy! :o)
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Genuine friendship, regardless of age, brings about so many wonderful things to people. For one, there is an opportunity for people who have intergenerational friendships to share their knowledge. Undeniably, seniors have gone through so many experiences that the younger generations can only read about in books, including something as simple as using a payphone to call home. Intergenerational friendships enable older people to share firsthand knowledge, leave a legacy, and impart wisdom.
And this is not a one-way-street. Even the younger generations can share valuable knowledge to seniors, like teach them how to create social media accounts and engage on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Older individuals will also enjoy learning how to use an iPod to play their old favorites.
Intergenerationalal friendship is also a way for an individual to broaden their support system. As we get older, we experience losing some of our family members and friends. When we build relationships with younger generations, this enables us to offset the feelings of isolation and loneliness that may lead to depression in senior individuals who have lost their love ones.
Improved overall health is another benefit of intergenerational friendships. In fact, older adults who spend time with children are able to burn 20 percent more calories per week. Also, seniors who engage with younger generations are also less likely to experience a fall and tend to perform better on memory tests. You could say that being with younger people keeps one young!
Here are just five stories from #DisruptAging that prove age is no barrier to a beautiful relationship.
Tracy Schorn and Yoma Ullman
Tracy Schorn, 52, met Yoma Ullman, 83, in 1994 when they were both editors at the Center for Strategic and International Studies (CSIS) think tank in Washington, D.C.
“Yoma, who is British, was exotic, like her name (which is Burmese for ‘mountain’). She grew up in Burma when it was still a British colony — witty, self-deprecating, independent. I liked her immediately,” Schorn says. “I’d only worked at CSIS for a couple months, and she gave me a packet of saffron as a Christmas gift. So practical! And quirky. Much like Yoma.”
Why are they such great friends? “A shared approach to life, I think. And some shared adversity — different generations,” Schorn says.
When Schorn was going through a divorce, Ullman, also divorced, was her rock, the one who stayed by her side through every court battle.
“Yoma has set an example of what it is to reinvent one’s life. As an only child during World War II, she was evacuated from Assam, India, without her parents and sent to Darjeeling with a nanny,” Schorn says. “At 9, her family went to England and her parents left her there at boarding school and went back to India for three years, as was the common English practice.”
Ullman made the best of her new life in a new land. Years later, after her divorce, she remade herself yet again, with two daughters in tow. More recently, she reinvented herself as a photographer after retiring from CSIS. She says she still loves working and learning all she can, while also doing tai chi every day.
“She’s a good example of living right,” Schorn says. “I love her.”
Craig Triplett and Nancy Flores Picado
Craig Triplett, 59, met Nancy Flores Picado, 32, more than 10 years ago, when they worked together at a small educational nonprofit in Virginia.
“She was hired as a receptionist, and she and I began talking when I’d pass by her desk. We eventually took up weightier topics, and I even helped her plan her wedding,” Triplett says. “English is her second language, and I’m a former college-level writing teacher, so I also helped her get through her undergrad writing courses. I also helped her study for her citizenship exam.”
He says they make an unlikely pair, as he’s from a small town in the Midwest and she emigrated from Honduras when she was in high school.
“I once told Nancy that my favorite Spanish word is ‘abuela’ because I’ve heard it spoken so often with such reverence and love. Nancy replied that she ‘feels sorry for the gringos’ because we don’t understand the importance of family. LOL,” Triplett says. “I was married many years ago, but I’ve been alone a long time now, and I never had children of my own.”
As a result, Picado pretty much adopted him as a family member.
“She now has two children, Camila, 3, and Gabriel, 1, and I feel a bit like a grandpa (an abuelo!) when I visit,” Triplett says. “I take sustenance from the connection I’ve made with Nancy and her family. And Nancy has made it her mission to marry me off! But she has to approve. She doesn’t want me to be taken advantage of. LOL.”
Dorothy Phillips and Ariel
Dorothy Phillips, 72, met Ariel, 19, two years ago working retail at a Marshall’s in Pennsylvania.
“We just connected. Ariel is a lovely person, truly … beautiful inside and out. I give her rides when we work the same hours … she never asks. She is unassuming and appreciative,” Phillips says. “She is nonjudgmental and laughs at my silly stories. She’s very good at listening, and I’m very good at talking … it’s the perfect friendship!”
After work and on weekends, Phillips even gave Ariel driving lessons; Ariel passed her driving test — on the first try.
“She is just a breath of fresh air … she has a positive outlook, going to college to assure a better job in her future,” Phillips says. “I always look forward to seeing her and know I will get a hug. I adore her and hope we are friends forever.
“And now I realize you can have a dear friend of any age,” she says. “I told her she is my best friend!”
Mary Westring and Dorothy
Mary Westring, 79, met Dorothy, 105, more than four decades ago.
“About 40 years ago, when I was in my late 30s, my neighbor, who was in her mid-60s, reached out to me and asked me over for coffee and drinks in the late afternoon, and invited me on excursions to the botanical garden,” Westring says. “I probably would not have initiated the friendship for she was my mother’s age and I had a busy life and a circle of friends. But her friends were dying or leaving the area and she set about identifying people she liked and began to ‘court’ them.
“She is now 105 and is as fun and interesting as she has always been and her ‘young’ friends are in our 70s,” Westring says. “I have lots of good memories and lots of good stories about our wonderful friend. She and I share the same humor, a sense of the ridiculous.”
What do they like to do together? Every year they visit the Planting Fields Arboretum on Long Island to see the camellias in bloom.
“Dorothy has always packed a lunch and it was always the same: peanut butter salad sandwiches (peanut butter with green pepper, celery and onions), chips, tomato juice, coffee and cookies,” Westring says. “Apparently she had a circle of friends that ate that same menu when they got together and called themselves the PBS club — the Peanut Butter Salad Club. She made me an honorary member.”
Marcia Daniels and Her Tennis Team
Marcia Daniels, 69, doesn’t have just one friend that is much younger … she has a whole tennis team of younger friends.
“I’ve been a competitive tennis player for over 50 years. I play on an 18-and-over tennis team. There are two of us that are older. Yolanda Miranda is 70. She and I competed against each other in high school in the 1960s,” Daniels says. “But other team members are in their 20s, a couple are in their 30s and one is in her 40s. We practice once or twice a week and typically have a match against other teams once a week.”
A few years ago, the team participated in a tournament in Tucson and decided to stay an extra night.
“At one point, several of us went to In-N-Out Burger for milkshakes and burgers by the pool. I remember being emotional that night after playing water volleyball and some beer pong, and telling the girls that my wish for them when they are my age is that some wonderful young ladies would treat them the way they had treated me,” Daniels says. “We play together, dance together and just plain have fun. Tennis is great for health and socialization and the competition keeps us going. My life is so rich because of these young women.”
The National Council on Aging gives us some useful tips on eating well in later life. Take a look at the tips, along with bonus videos below!
Tips for Picking Healthy Food as You Get Older
Here are 6 tips to help you find the best foods for your body and your budget.
1. Know what a healthy plate looks like
You might remember the food pyramid, but the USDA recently unveiled a simpler way to help people see what they should eat each day. It’s called MyPlate. The simple graphic shows exactly how the five food groups should stack up on your plate. These are the building blocks for a healthy diet.
2. Look for important nutrients
Make sure you eat a variety of foods to get all the nutrients you need. Your plate should look like a rainbow—bright, colored foods are always the best choice! A healthy meal should include:
Lean protein (lean meats, seafood, eggs, beans)
Fruits and vegetables (think orange, red, green, and purple)
Whole grains (brown rice, whole wheat pasta)
Low-fat dairy (milk and its alternatives)
Remember to choose foods that are high in fiber and low in sodium or salt. Also, look for Vitamin D, an important mineral as we age.
3. Read the Nutrition Facts label
The healthiest foods are whole foods. These are often found on the perimeter of the grocery store in the produce, meat, and dairy sections. When you do eat packaged foods, be a smart shopper! Read the labels to find items that are lower in fat, added sugars, and sodium.
4. Use recommended servings
To maintain your weight, you must eat the right amount of food for your age and body. The American Heart Association provides recommended daily servings for adults aged 60+.
5. Stay hydrated
Water is an important nutrient too! Don’t let yourself get dehydrated—drink small amounts of fluids consistently throughout the day. Tea, coffee, and water are your best choices. Keep fluids with sugar and salt at a minimum, unless your doctor has suggested otherwise.
6. Stretch your food budget
Want to get the biggest nutritional bang for your buck? The Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) can help you afford healthy food when you need it. Over 4 million older Americans use SNAP to buy food, and the average senior receives $113 each month. Visit BenefitsCheckUp.org/getSNAP to see if the program can help you.
In 2016, Partners In Care screened a free documentary for members of PIC and the greater community. We learned so much about dating in later life. Here are some of the learned lessons:
Speed dating first appeared in the 1990s but has become much more popular in recent years among baby boomers and seniors. Perhaps it’s the breaking of stereotypes and old taboos among older generations, as well as our increased longevity. Whatever the reason, speed dating – a way to meet many potential matches in a short amount of time – has proven especially beneficial for the over-50 population, who have fewer options for social interaction. Also, since older adults have a better idea of what they’re looking for in a partner, they gain from the chance to meet other available seniors one-on-one. The documentary “The Age of Love” – which follows 30 participants of an actual speed dating event for the 70+ set – helps viewers of all ages see that our search for love and companionship transcends age.
How many older adults are single?
In 2012, only 57% of adults 65 and older in America, were married and roughly one-third of baby boomers are currently unmarried. Dating in later life will increase as the proportion of older adults who are single continue to rise.
Why do older adults need companions?
Research suggests that many women view dating as a social activity that provides a unique form of companionship not achieved through friendships with other women
Sexuality is increasingly considered key to older adults’ satisfaction in life – and an important factor in their health and well being.
“My own children don’t ask me what’s in my heart, or what I’m feeling. they ask me what I need, they take care of me and they love me. But they never ask me about what I’m feeling emotional. And I have so much to tell you…”– Participant from the film.
Why is “touch” important in later life?
According to Polish data, men and women aged 70 or older, expect and want sexual tenderness and touch in later life.
“We live by the touch, and I mean just a handshake, a hug, a kiss on the cheek. You have to have that contact….. You don’t survive without it.”- Joan Floyd, 69-year-old from New Jersey experiencing Speed Dating for the first time.
What are the other benefits of dating in later life?
Combats loneliness and social isolation
Brings physical intimacy and touch back into their lives
Breaks down barriers of ageism– sends a message to the world that older adults can be romantic too
Promotes healthier eating choices and habits
Research shows that dating in later life promotes healthier lifestyles…
…enhances driving abilities
…and promotes greater involvement in organizational activities
Forming a new partnership that provides close ties is preferable to relying on their adult children for social support and interaction.
For men and women– older adults who date reported greater social connectedness
Take a look at the trailer here and website and check out a screening near you. And if Speed Dating isn’t your thing check out these articles to learn the best ways to get out there and date!